Creating harmony through understanding, not rules through restriction
Watch Original Video Subtitles available in many languagesWe have specific guidelines that help us live together harmoniously. These aren't rigid rules, but thoughtful guidelines designed to create a community where everyone feels comfortable and connected.
The key to understanding our community is knowing that everything is based on mutual respect, understanding, and the willingness to communicate openly with each other.
When you first arrive, you're a guest - whether you're staying for one night, two nights, or three nights. During this time:
Remember: Being a guest isn't about the number of nights - it's about your integration level!
We elevate you from guest to community member when we feel you're truly integrated. This might happen when:
The best scenario: We notice your integration and tell you! Sometimes you might need to ask if you're unsure, but usually we'll let you know when you've made the transition.
Once you're part of the project, things change:
If we don't maintain this schedule, bedtime drifts to 11, then 12... Our roommates deserve privacy and quiet nights. We want everyone to wake up early and energized. Most importantly, synchronized schedules create natural opportunities for community bonding.
Guests need more time to figure things out and get ready. Community members know the routines and can help others while preparing themselves. It's about capability and responsibility, not hierarchy.
We're adults in a community, not children asking parents. When you communicate your needs, you're showing respect for others while taking responsibility for your choices.
Life happens, and our guidelines can flex when there's genuine need and mutual care.
Why this works: Clear reason, specific time, shows consideration, offers reciprocity, acknowledges community values, seeks consensus.
Yes, but only after you've transitioned from guest to community member. To propose changes:
Remember: Guidelines exist for reasons. Any change should preserve the underlying values while improving the implementation.
Regular exceptions are more complex than one-time requests. If you're a community member who needs frequent exceptions:
Our guidelines create the community we want. If someone needs exceptions constantly, it might indicate a mismatch rather than a guideline problem.
The transition is organic and based on integration, not time. Signs you might be ready:
Best case: We tell you! But if you're unsure after a few days, it's perfectly fine to ask: "Hey, do you all see me as integrated into the project now?"